All in all, can’t say I’m ‘fine’ but I am happy that I quit mostly because I get the idea I am FINALLY stepping into the time and space and learning experiences I was born for. All these first chakra things about money, house, work, safety. And that is good, not very comfortable, but good and very NEW. I am thinking of changing my name into ‘building’ or something like it. Only Feeling is not doing the thing anymore.
On sugar: I have been without sugar for I believe 30 days now excluding two, one with honey for my throat and one with sugar because of addiction. Funny that I have unpurposely not eaten meat for 2 weeks. Had some eco chicken wings yesterday and I turned out to be not really interested. Strange, strange, strange. A few months ago I started the clean eating too (no sugar, no additives, loads of veggies) and also automatically lost appetite for meat. I can not accept yet that my road of addiction is leading me to excluding every food or behavior that is addictive or deals with denial, everything that makes me be unclear. I want to be clear, transparent. Not sure why but that is what I want.
Meat is about denial, when I think about the cow being slaughtered I am appalled. I need to set up boundaries to be able to eat it. Like I set up boundaries to keep the panic about the finances out; big time denial. So I am guessing not eating meat is on my road but shit, I still would like to ‘hang on to stuff’ – don’t want to stand all on my own in my own self. π So there are movements towards clarity and there are movements that want to hold on to the old situation. One thing I’ve learned in sobriety: easy does it. No rushing into stuff, no unbalancing things, setting myself up for failure with difficult diets that cut out everything all at once, easy does it. Ooh, on diet, I am at 80 kilo’s. Which is, if I remember well 1,5 kilo below the ‘weight coming out mail’ a few weeks ago.
On health: discovered I have 3 different types of parasites, possibly from the cat. No wonder my bowels are protesting. Not sure what road to take in getting rid of them; try natural or chemical. I’m a bit afraid of chemical. Need to study that.
I take: nothing
I want: mostly to find in me the rest to let the experiences of this weekend settle and be included in my energetic cell experience / memory too – or whatever that is. That is what it feels like when I change and do new stuff.
I need: I need to let stuff settle. Ok, meditating on that will be good. π
3 Things that went well today: cat’s presence improved Big Time with some homeopathic stuff I gave her after having searched the internet on what exactly she would need for hours. She also started eating again and she is eager to go outside – since she did not sneeze after I gave her the stuff I let her go. She knows better.
I feel like I have stepped into the place where I need to be – which is very fucking scary but I guess it is the way to go. I have changed, the air has changed, the stars seem to have changed – or something like that. I also feel I need to catch up with the stream of last Saturday in order not to lose the connection. Not sure how it works, sometimes I feel like there are energetic streams in life, like infrequent bus lines, and I ‘just’ need to hop on. It feels like learned behavior and karma prevent me from this easy traveling. A friend of mine explained karma as such: all living things and situations in the world have a beginning, a middle part and an end. When we got stuck in a situation somewhere there comes a trauma and our life force wants to end this trauma so we get attracted to the same type of experience – till we solve it. I feel my unsolved things prevent me from hopping on the busses that drive by – heck, they prevent me to see that my bus could be a 5 star zeppelin flying me all over the universe and back! π
Thing 3: this morning I found a whole sack of new earplugs in the back of a drawer, I thought I had run out of them :-). They are very welcome with the construction workers outside.
So… this is what I have been doing and experiencing lately. As you might read in between the lines I need all of my energy and time to myself so I have not been messing in your blogline a lot. But, yeah, happy that I quit. π About this time around last year I got started with getting introduced to an organisation who was going to help me quit. π Glad I did, shit that was scary. Ghegheghe, I could not even speak on the phone sometimes. Loads of saying “I am panicking now, I do not know what to say, I can not think.” and “I can not hear what you are saying.” π Making myself helpable…. I’ve got a few more steps to go but I am getting there. The idea that being helped does not equal being butchered because helpless is getting there.
I wish you a good day / evening.
xx, Feeling
Wow, you’ve come a long way! Big step telling your sister-in-law. You are taking steps to improve so many areas of your life! Your story is encouragement for others.π
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π Yes, big step finally made easy because it, well, finally, seemed like the right thing to do. I did not want to have to twist and turn during the day in order to talk my way out of ‘why I had done this and that’. I just had because I had no control because I was drinking. Did not want to have to ‘lie’ anymore. That took 9 months for me to come to the point but the moment was there. π
I write more to document and show the nitty bitty things that go on in the process of freeing myself from addiction at very microscopic level. I am not specifically writing to bring encouragement but it makes me happy when people find that in my posts. π
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It’s all about not feeling alone, so when I and others read yours and other stories, it’s encouraging. Personally I struggle with writing because I feel my story lacks something. Crazy I know…
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‘Helpless’ leads to asking for help which ends the helplessness. Therein lies strength and growth. Proud of you. X
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You’re doing GREAT. The s-i-l was a good one to risk trusting. That’s a scary thing. And having a cat? Well that in itself is hugely encouraging. One tiny step at a tiny, that’s how we all make it back to life. π
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That was very brave to tell your SIL. I think it was s good move. Support and honesty. There is nothing better than that.
And letting her help you with your finances is also s huge step! You are leaving denial behind! The relief must be enormous.
Take care!
Anne
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Hi Anne, thank you for your support π
The relief was enormous indeed. And… (but) I now have to do the actual work and that is step 2. It is like accepting that drinking is not good and then actually quitting. Let’s see π / let’s work on that / let’s do it!
xx, Feeling
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Have you heard of Diatamaceous Earth (food grade)? It pulls out parasites from your intestinal tract. You can also give a small amount each day to the cat. You can research it online. You have to make sure it’s food grade, extremely important!
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Thank you and no, had not heard of it. What I read about it makes it very interesting. Do you have experience with it?
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I get mine from Wolf Creek Ranch online. Just wanted to let you know.
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Oooh, yeah, you do have experience with it :-). Seeing that you are writing anonymous, would you care to tell me about your experiences? Or mail me privately?
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Dear Feeling,
Your SIL sounds supportive, and getting help with your finances is a big step too!
I am very proud of you!
I hope your cat is getting better.
As for meat? My goal is to keep cutting back, so I just have it 3 to 4 times a week and no more than the size of a deck of playing cards.
xo
Wendy
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Thank you Wendy! You did a coming out as well with your personal photo as an avatar. π Hello! And brave! And: I am not there yet but thank you in walking this road of openness before me/us.
Yes, cutting back on the meat, I think it will lessen the warfare in the future. Did you know that 70% of all land that is used to build food on is food for the meat and dairy industry? Horrible. π¦ Maybe, once I get there, I need to do a post on this.
Thank you for your support and kind messages. Always very welcome. π
xx, Feeling
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So happy to hear you’re doing well – great that you asked for help with the finances! You have a lot to process, and its good that you are giving yourself time to catch up with it all. Hope your cat gets better very soon. What’s her name? I’m sat with mine at the moment (well, Mr W.s cat really), she’s called Nala xx
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Hi Waking Up,
Not really sure how she’s doing. The sneezing went away for a day and a half but I heard hear again today, but only once. She seems to be doing well on the medicine I got from the vet. The bladder does not improve but she sleeps deeply and wakes up with bright eyes and active. Lets see. I never knew a sick cat could cause me so much stress. My cat is anonymous too actually π and however she does not listen to her name. I got her of the street and the vet saw an upskirt photo of her and said ‘castrated male’, it worked out to be a non sterilised pussycat. She was already pregnant when that dawned on me. π Well, sometimes I need plain stupidity to have a good time; it was wonderful so many kittens in the house, lovely. I’m all for castrating cats but well, I figured I don’t drive a car, eat mostly ecological, I can afford one nest of kittens – not? π Did Nala ever have a nest?
xx, Feeling
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Sorry! Yes I realised afterwards she might be anonymous π Nala did have kittens, but that was before my husband got her from the cat sanctuary. She was speyed by the time he got her. I really hope your cat is better soon, give her a cuddle from me! Xx
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No worries. It’s just that she has a funny google-able name and I did not want to lie about it. π
The signs of the body have improved a little but she has come to life over the energetic drops that she has been getting. She gets 2 sorts of drops: 1 energetic and 1 for the things she has. The energetic drops sort of have the effect like her suddenly walking in a Frida Kahlo painting. A-ma-zing, what an effect. I’m thinking of going there and asking some for myself. π So that is very promising. π She did sneeze another 1 time but that was when she was under a wool blanket.
She will be thoroughly cuddled. π
xx, Feeling
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Hi Feeling,
I’m so happy to read this post…and so proud of you for telling your sister in law. I’m happy she was so open and accepting and that she was able to give you the support you needed. I’m sure you feel somewhat vulnerable…stepping into a new phase of your life and sobriety. Soon things will begin to feel more normal … and then on to the next challenge, right? π
I love love love this thought of yours…
sometimes I feel like there are energetic streams in life, like infrequent bus lines, and I βjustβ need to hop on.
Brilliant. Sending you lots of love and light…peaceful and rejuvenating energy…
D
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π Thank you D. I do indeed feel that there is a next phase here. Lets see where this bus takes me. π
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