Hello,
I have some days off. At work there was a test audit at the beginning of this week and we did well enough. So it was time for me to take a day off. My boss texted he would advise me to take Thursday and Friday off too. I guess he does so because he cares / I have so many extra hours. I myself felt fired obviously. Guessing I’m not – which is HUGE progress. :-D. It took me a day to come to that conclusion though. In between I read the whole internet, finished Netflix and binged on cheese, chips and chocolate. Then I felt BAD and realised I did so because I binged on cheese, chips and chocolate. Gosh?!
This whole proces of learning to take care of me is difficult. Not drinking is not so difficult. Living is more difficult. Not self-destructing is the most difficult thing. The womb twin survivor issue is coming back to me in a lot of different ways. It hurts. I guess it will be like that for a while until it things get better, if they ever do. The realisation that this experience of watching / feeling my twin brother die is so fundamental for my whole life is difficult. Well, having found a ‘reason’ is good. Not ready yet to start from there and find a way to heal what was broken. Or to accept what is unacceptable. Guess this means I need to mourn. Or maybe I am trying to fix things in the same mindset which got them broken. 🙂 Dunno. 🙂
The other day I learned to practise the ´this too will pass´ concept on myself. Which is good. I seem to take every suffering as ´eternal´. And it is not. Now cleaning my house. I was as we say it ´scrambling up the walls´ out of sheer panick of not knowing what to do with spare time other than weekend. Cleaning is good.
I am happy that I quit. Eventhough currently living is difficult for me. All the things which are weird about me seem to surface and this hurts. I am trying to turn it into a lesson of self acceptance but the forces of self-destruction are big within. Nah, can’t make heads or tails of this day; might as well clean. A woman who loves herself would use her sad/weird time wisely so she would be able to enjoy the non sad non weird time in a clean house. 🙂
Wishing you a beautiful day.
xx, Feeling
feelingmywaybackintolife 
Days off – Yay!! 🙂 xx
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It’s typical most addicts, if not watchful, replace one addiction with another (i.e. food). On the other hand, in early sobriety, we tend to eat more because we starved our bodies from the nutrients it needed when in active addiction. Then again, indulgence every now and then is actually good for you, so I’ve heard. Here’s a bit of honesty to put it into perspective. I can (key word) eat a tub of peanut butter chocolate ice cream after a bad day at work. I hope that brings a smile to your face 🙂 The point is about change. These changes don’t happen overnight. They take time. They are all new. It takes time for us to understand and appropriately handle them. Talk to others who may have the same experiences. Even after years of sobriety, I will learn new things about myself from time to time. It’s part of the recovery process 🙂
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Hi Feeling!
In my house the dust is winning at the moment.
I too, must remember that this too will pass.
Today I will just gently live each moment.
Breathe into the feelings with a soft touch.
Happy Days Off!!
co
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That is a beautiful way to approach it: ‘breathe into the feelings with a soft touch’. Thank you Wendy. 🙂
xx, Feeling
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I get the eternal suffering. I try hard to notice when I cling to both happiness and unhappiness. I think noticing helps…sometimes o can even laugh at my fatalism.
Enjoy your break. You found good!
Anne
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Yeah, guess ‘noticing’ is a big thing in sobriety. Still feeling my way back into life. Could do without the overwhelm but I guess feeling tired of that will make me find other ways. 😉
xx, Feeling
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I hope you enjoyed your days off! 🙂 x
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Yay! It is strange but I am getting the hang of it! Cleaning! 🙂
xx, Feeling
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I really hope you find more to do with your days off than cleaning! How about booking yourself in for a foot massage (reflexology) or something similar. You are not weird, you are lovely. You are down to earth and very very real. With so much fakeness in the world that is a gift, believe me. I like the ‘this too will pass’ mantra.
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Hey feeling. It’s bloody hard to take care of yourself. Self-care is my word for this year and yes, I stopped smoking and drinking but I am not resting nearly enough, I’m eating crap food and not working out. I think I’ll go with Wendy’s advice and breathe gently into the feelings. Easy does it.xxx
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Self care and my and everyaddictbody’s lack thereoff is interesting. How come? Don’t they teach us? Is it not ingrained?
Easy does it. Guess I’m still not ok with the baby steps. 🙂
xx, Feeling
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