3 years!

3 Years ago today was my first sober day in at least a year. Now reading my first blog post on this blog ever. Amazing to read that I was so proud of having quit: “I did it! I did it! I stopped!” As if it was an event. πŸ™‚ Well, I guess at that moment it was. I thought I just had to stop drinking. Which, in itself, in all its simplicity is true.

It took me a while to find out that there was more to it than that. πŸ™‚ All in due time. Baby steps.

Thank you all for reading this blog. Things have been easy and difficult. I know for sure that I would not have made it to 3 years without your support. With reading about your ups and downs, about how you deal with that, what the traps are, how to prevent them. I learned a lot. Mostly, I guess, I learned that sobriety is a process, not an event. (If I may quote Robert on that.)

I have all kinds of thoughts about how my next year will be but I refrain from speaking about that since I have learned that changing habits is difficult.

I am happy that I quit. I can say that and all the cells in my body are singing. Being happy that I quit has for me proven to be quite a good practices. Whenever I close a post, whenever I remember to think about the subject, I try to come to a spot where I am happy that I quit. When I am happy that I quit, I am strong against drink thoughts and other nastiness. When I would be unhappy the idea of ‘might as well drink since life is shit anyway’ pops up. That is a trap. There are many traps out there. Being happy that I quit steers me away from most – makes that I do not even have drink thoughts. The realisation that anything that tells me to drink comes from the addict within is another one. Whatever it takes (to not drink) is what it takes. πŸ™‚

And if I am not happy that I quit I have the opportunity to work on it till I am happy that I quit. I have not drunk since the 25 of August 2014, I hope I never will. I hope so mostly because I do not want to be enslaved. And by now I think addiction is a spiritual misunderstanding which I have used to not take responsibility for myself. As it worked itself out: I could not at the time and addiction to anything ‘helped’. I know I have been born with an adversity against living life to the fullest, still, there is this voice saying ‘I would rather not be here.’ In real life this expressed itself as a newborn who screamed at the top of her lungs with RAGE within seconds of being propelled into this world.Β  Maybe that is a good theme for this year: incarnating in this life.

I know I came into this well, personality / life, with little foundation on which I can build responsibility, and I have the gene and the physical issue with sugar sensitivity, and blablabla…. But there is no problem that does not get worst with drinking so I’d better not. I have little control over alcohol and myself when it is in my body. But I do when it is outside of my body and that is where I need to exercise my responsibility.

This week I have had a holiday and I have done next to nothing and worked myself through enjoying that. I notice that I criticise EVERY MOVE I MAKE. So there’s some work to do. Secretly (?) I am playing with the thought of seeing if I can get a sponsor but immediately all these ideas about ‘how she should be’ pop up and they are not respectful. So I guess I need to work through that before I engage. Prejudice.

Feeling my way back into life has proven succesful to my process πŸ˜€ of not drinking. The idea was that I have been avoiding emotions by drinking so if I do the opposite I am walking the straightest line away from where I was. That is true-ish, ok, true-ish-like. By now I am starting to see that being thrown about by emotions is not the most handy way of living. Separating my awareness from what the body and emotions throw at me gives more peace. But then I would be aware and that, is still pretty scary. Maybe it were not the emotions I was scared of but the awareness. Awareness might actually have to do with being responsible while emotions happen. Hmmm. Food for thought. Not taking responsibility for emotions, that is IN the situation, but being aware, there is a separation between the ‘physical’ emotion and the awareness of it.

Funny this aversion against awareness. While I know, when I take the time, I really appreciate it.Β  Food for thought. I guess the activity of my job takes me to other places a lot. Difficult to come down from that energy into rest. And…. I have not really needed it. I ‘get by’ so to say. I am aware that I am not shaping my life, that it is sort of happening to me and that I a am reactive in it. I am guessing that this will last untill I am done with it. Or relapse. That would be a possibility too. I am very well aware that I am, and have been, on a path where I do not really choose. And if I do not choose, life chooses for me. To really choose, would mean that I would really want to be here. I guess the thing to sort out is why I do not. This was ment to be an upbeat celebratory post… chips, did not happen. πŸ˜€ Ghegheghe…. πŸ™‚

So… 3 year present(s)? I did, I got myself a slowjuicer because I still do not eat my leafy greens – I don’t like the feel in my mouth, I like heavy vegetables like green beans and courgette, not the leavy greens. And since at work we often have a lot of those left-over from lunch I can take those home. πŸ™‚ And OBVIOUSLY I got myself some books. And 17 boxes of tea. And some special cheeses. Tomorrow I’m off to the sauna. Oh yeah, got myself a new bathrobe too. Haven not been a whole long time. So I should be off to bed otherwise I will waste tomorrow morning in bed.

Wishing you a nice sober evening/day/weekend. I am HAPPY that I quit. I hope you are happy that you quit too. πŸ™‚

A woman who loves herself would go to bed. Now. πŸ™‚ This is my first post πŸ™‚

Day 3

Hello, bloggers, readers, I’m new and out here, now. This is the third day after what was hopefully my last drink and I decided not to lurk around your blogs anymore. Belle, special thanks for the word β€˜lurking’ :-D.

I worked myself through the first 60 hours of detox without withdrawal symptoms while quitting from about 12 glasses an evening 7*7 for a year and about 6-10 the 10 years before that. Hurray for the lack of withdrawal symptoms!

After I decided to stop, someday, sometime, fear of a Delirium Tremens was β€˜what kept me drinking’. Or in other words, I placed the fear of a new, sober situation on the idea that I was going to have a DT and end up in the hospital, most possibly sweating, crying, undressed and with puke in my hair. It did not happen. I still have 12 hours to go to the 72 hour limit and I guess I’m going to make that just fine DT wise.

I was high on happy hormones this morning – those are normally depressed by booze and without booze come flooding through my body. Now utterly tired but I want to shout out to the world that I did it! I did it!!!! I stopped.

2 Nights, no drinking. It was actually easy, did sleep a lot, did keep a watchful eye on me the rest of the time. But according to Jason Vale’s book I could start right after the last drink to enjoy my freedom and happiness and celebrate with a glass of, ooh no.Β  So I’ll just do that, just be happy.

Pretty sure this is my first pink cloud and the traps are digging themselves eagerly everywhere around me, I’ll see, you’ll hear. Gonna lay down now, breathe, feel my way through.

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23 thoughts on “3 years!

    • Oh yeah, happy dance! Thank you dear Wendy. I am happy we met. Your happy responses, your example, your gutsyness in life, I would not have been here 3 years sober. So LOVE to you!! ❀ ❀
      It is one day, one moment at the time but I am looking forward to your 3 years!
      xx, Feeling

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  1. BIG congrats on #3, so amazing. Also, so cool to see your very first post, you’ve come such a long way. Sounds like you have an incredible amount of gratitude, I hope that carries you happily into each day of your 4th year. Take care. x

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    • Thank you Cat! πŸ™‚ And thank you for dropping by at my blog. I like to think I have come a long way. Starting to become aware of leaving some things unfinished too. πŸ™‚ I guess gratitude = pushing the internal happy button. I really think it is important to get to that ‘I am happy that I quit’ point so many days, if not every day. Hope to see you around! πŸ™‚
      xx, Feeling

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    • Dear HM,
      Thank you! And thank you for being in my sober blog life. πŸ™‚ I love reading your posts. Here is to our next 333!
      xx, Feeling
      PS: I was reading replies and tearing up, not wearing glassed cause ‘I’ve got this…” and pushes some weird key combination at which your comment got trashed. I untrashed it but not sure where my comment went. πŸ™‚ So if there happens to be a 2nd reply, this is how it came to be. WP is like life, you can walk around in it for years but it stil holds many secrets. πŸ˜‰

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  2. Woo hoo! 3 years!
    And do much insight and wonder and information and realization that has helps me, and I am sure many others.
    I am happy you quit and happy I quit and grateful we intersected.
    On we go!

    Stillness and peace
    Anne

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    • Grateful we intersected. Amen to that dear Anne. You are the compassion to my judgement, the stillness to my ranting, the baby steps to my running around. Without your and Louise’s support in the early days and obviously later I would not be sober
      xx, Feeling

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  3. I can’t believe we have been reading each other’s blog for three years! You have no idea, or perhaps you do, how much of an impact you have been in my life! Much love. Ron

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  4. Reading your post gave me a smile so wide!! Congrats on all you’ve achieved and to your continued success on your journey! Loved reading the your first, you’ve come a long way baby!!

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    • Thank you for your comment Dana, and thank you for visiting my blog. πŸ™‚
      FYI: since this is your first comment on this blog, WordPress automatically sends it to the ‘to be approved’ inbox. Only after I react to it, will this message appear online as well.
      Hope to see you around!
      xx, Feeling

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